Comments on: You’re Fired! http://tgilt.org/?p=885 Just one compulsive eater to another Sun, 22 Aug 2010 00:09:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Margo http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-457 Margo Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:39:23 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-457 Thank You Thank You

]]> By: Kerry http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-454 Kerry Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:03:26 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-454 Hi Steve My name is Kerry, and firstly i would like to say thanks for your comment on my blog. It gave me the inspiration to phone the ladies at OA. Unfortunatly i got no answer on either of the phone numbers. But i will try again tomorrow. I have been reading through your site, and your a very inspirational man, who has obviously come a long way in life. I will admit, i am terrified at the thought of going to OA, but i know that i need something like that. Its that fear of the unknown thing. I will keep on checking in on your web site. Keep up the awesome work. Kerry Hi Steve

My name is Kerry, and firstly i would like to say thanks for your comment on my blog. It gave me the inspiration to phone the ladies at OA. Unfortunatly i got no answer on either of the phone numbers. But i will try again tomorrow.

I have been reading through your site, and your a very inspirational man, who has obviously come a long way in life.

I will admit, i am terrified at the thought of going to OA, but i know that i need something like that. Its that fear of the unknown thing.

I will keep on checking in on your web site.

Keep up the awesome work.

Kerry

]]> By: Margo http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-451 Margo Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:39:27 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-451 Hi Steve, Do you believe that online sponsoring is effective? Just wondering... Hi Steve,

Do you believe that online sponsoring is effective? Just wondering…

]]> By: Will http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-450 Will Mon, 14 Dec 2009 17:56:43 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-450 Thank you for sharing this. I am currently sponsoring a total of 4 folks in some way shape or form...3 I am sponsoring on the steps and 1 is using me as a backup sponsor. Of the 3 that I sponsor on the steps, 2 of them when awol and I made an outreach call to both of them...may try Facebook as well...the 1 that I am backup sponsor to calls me from time to time, texts me her food and we update each other on facebook along with great hugs at OA meetings...so that pretty much leaves me with 1 other member that I am actively working with and that is o.k. I had to learn not to take it personally and trust me, I didn't want that lesson to happen, but it did. I also had 1 sponsee in the very beginning of my sponsorhood that pretty much told me to "f*** off and do not call me again!" when I called to see how he was doing. Boy, oh boy, did I want to "fix" him...how dare he talk to me like that...doesn't he know who/what I am...and I am sure that you know the rest of the song---finally when the music died down and I could listen to my HP who gently reminded me that I have a program to work and that program includes having a sponsor and being available to sponsor, if I am asked...and today, I am very grateful to be abstinent and have a program to work. Take care and be well... Will Thank you for sharing this. I am currently sponsoring a total of 4 folks in some way shape or form…3 I am sponsoring on the steps and 1 is using me as a backup sponsor. Of the 3 that I sponsor on the steps, 2 of them when awol and I made an outreach call to both of them…may try Facebook as well…the 1 that I am backup sponsor to calls me from time to time, texts me her food and we update each other on facebook along with great hugs at OA meetings…so that pretty much leaves me with 1 other member that I am actively working with and that is o.k. I had to learn not to take it personally and trust me, I didn’t want that lesson to happen, but it did. I also had 1 sponsee in the very beginning of my sponsorhood that pretty much told me to “f*** off and do not call me again!” when I called to see how he was doing. Boy, oh boy, did I want to “fix” him…how dare he talk to me like that…doesn’t he know who/what I am…and I am sure that you know the rest of the song—finally when the music died down and I could listen to my HP who gently reminded me that I have a program to work and that program includes having a sponsor and being available to sponsor, if I am asked…and today, I am very grateful to be abstinent and have a program to work. Take care and be well…

Will

]]> By: Triskaidekaphilia: Just For Today, I’m Going to Earn Sixty Days of Abstinence « A 40-Something Fool's Journey http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-449 Triskaidekaphilia: Just For Today, I’m Going to Earn Sixty Days of Abstinence « A 40-Something Fool's Journey Sun, 13 Dec 2009 14:38:03 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-449 [...] Today, I read Thank God It’s Lunch Time by Steve, and his most recent entry was about being a sponsor whose sponsees aren’t using one of their most important tools. It’s interesting that a [...] [...] Today, I read Thank God It’s Lunch Time by Steve, and his most recent entry was about being a sponsor whose sponsees aren’t using one of their most important tools. It’s interesting that a [...]

]]> By: Steve http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-448 Steve Sun, 13 Dec 2009 14:09:25 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-448 Believe me, I don't take this personally. Once upong a time, I did. Not anymore. Interestingly, my step sponsor and I speak once a week for an hour. Occasionally I'll call mid-week if I need to talk about something. My food sponsor and I speak 3 times a week though sometimes, cause she's an old lady, who I love and care a great deal for and about, I call more often. Five sponsees who call on schedule remind me it's not all about me! Believe me, I don’t take this personally. Once upong a time, I did. Not anymore.

Interestingly, my step sponsor and I speak once a week for an hour. Occasionally I’ll call mid-week if I need to talk about something. My food sponsor and I speak 3 times a week though sometimes, cause she’s an old lady, who I love and care a great deal for and about, I call more often.

Five sponsees who call on schedule remind me it’s not all about me!

]]> By: Jess http://tgilt.org/?p=885&cpage=1#comment-447 Jess Sun, 13 Dec 2009 13:00:40 +0000 http://tgilt.org/?p=885#comment-447 I don't get it, either . . . you have years of abstinence and 12-Step experience, you're funny, and you're insightful. You're a dream sponsor for the OA newbie looking for a sponsor. How odd that you can't find a committed sponsee and I can't find someone I really click with who isn't already so very busy with sponsees or other OA service. I understand being nervous about calling regularly as a sponsee--I don't use telephone because I feel like I'm bothering other OA members. But when I get a sponsor, it's gonna be daily calls, especially through finishing Step Four and getting through Step Nine. And don't think of it as being fired . . . they quit coming halfway. You're still there with your hand out for them to put theirs in yours--you're keeping The Promise. Some day soon, I bet you'll find the sponsee who wants a lifetime of recovery and a long-term sponsor. Maybe there's something your HP can do or is trying to point out in the grand scheme of things? I don’t get it, either . . . you have years of abstinence and 12-Step experience, you’re funny, and you’re insightful. You’re a dream sponsor for the OA newbie looking for a sponsor.

How odd that you can’t find a committed sponsee and I can’t find someone I really click with who isn’t already so very busy with sponsees or other OA service. I understand being nervous about calling regularly as a sponsee–I don’t use telephone because I feel like I’m bothering other OA members. But when I get a sponsor, it’s gonna be daily calls, especially through finishing Step Four and getting through Step Nine.

And don’t think of it as being fired . . . they quit coming halfway. You’re still there with your hand out for them to put theirs in yours–you’re keeping The Promise. Some day soon, I bet you’ll find the sponsee who wants a lifetime of recovery and a long-term sponsor.

Maybe there’s something your HP can do or is trying to point out in the grand scheme of things?

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